*sigh*



I guess bullying can be a reason why anyone became reclusive or social phobic.

How were your experiences with it, how long did it last?
Did teachers or anyone help you or did it remain undiscovered to anyone who should have help you?

I don't want to awake bad memories but I thought it could be a good discussion, maybe it can even help.

Some might claim that all it does is hurt, but that's not the case. It's more helpful than harmful.

Anyways...

When I was growing up, the kids I went to school with were not that great to be around. So I left from that school to a more rural one. People there were MUCH more worse, and it's come to the point that even seeing them or a picture just aggravates me, and I cannot be around them.

I moved from there, back to my first school group, and they all admitted what they did, and we touched back on old ground. They're much more nicer to be around.

Hmm... I still wonder what I would do if I see or meet some of the guys who bullied me today. I sure would pretend not knowing them and just ignoring them. I had recently a dream where I opened the door and one of the guys was there. I don't remember what he said but it scared me the hell out of it. But just imagine he would say: "Forgive me." ... would I do that? Well, I may be able to do that but I would never forget what he did to me.

Maybe, like in the movie Flatliners, you can haunt your tormentors in
real life until they come crawling back to you begging for forgiveness!

Hmm... Used to be bullied at highschool until I snapped and put the ringleader into a headlock. Now they give me mutual respect.

In middle school i wasn't necessarily bullied but I was an outcast. No one really wanted to talk to me and when they did it was short. It hurt a lot and so i moved from the school to a more mixed(kinda ghetto) school, I'm much more happy and included and everyone talks me to me because they want me.. or at least i think they do..hopefully.

Meh. As a child I was bullied a lot. No one wanted to touch me. Teachers ignored me. I was snowball'd on the way to school. Kids would run me over with their bikes. I thought it was just a normal part of the school experience.

For me, it started in kindergarten & kept getting worse. Seventh grade was one of the worst years of my entire life. I was even ridiculed by a teacher in tenth grade, He made my life a living hell & made my social anxiety even worse than it already had been.

I hate teachers who do that. Back in 8th grade, I had a teacher who always called me stupid and a liar. Teachers can be complete pricks, even though they are suppose to be the role models.

True. I can remember two teachers I really hated.

Teacher #A
She was always on the side of the bullies and believed them everything they said. She was my class teacher in 8th grade so we often talk about what was wrong in the class. And of course I was always this "wrong" and I couldn't do anything about it.

Teacher #B
Teachers who like to pretend being psychologists are the worst. She was that type and she liked to discuss every problem coming up in the class (of course I was the problem again). And she was the PE teacher for girls and she liked to see us all dance like Bitchney Spears. I always denied to take part, even she threatened me with giving me the worst grade for the school reports. I didn't care about it, I just didn't want to dance.

I was so small and petite, I was an easy target for almost everyone, they always stole my Yu Gi Oh trading cards and people just ran me over because they didnt see me
Now im almost 2 meters big and it became better.
Im still an outsider but i dont get bullied anymore

I wouldn't care if someone tried to bully me. It wouldn't affect me at all.

my brother bullied me the most. thats where most of my fear of people comes from. he said he was trying to toughen me up. making me wet my pants in public was humiliating. not helpful at all. as i was growing up i realized that every jerk around acted like my brother. i didnt feel safe around the people of my ethnicity cause they were all like my brother. so i hung out with people who i did get along with. that got them into making fun of me cause they saw me as a sellout. other kids made fun of me cause i was awkward and unsociable. i dont agree with what those guys at columbine did but it might have helped me cause no one ever tried getting physical with me. sometimes i would hear people say that i looked like someone who would do that. one time this asshole wanted to beat me up cause he said i looked stupid. my cousin who was his friend talked him out of it cause he didnt want my mom telling his mom. i had no problem with gutting the guy if he did lay a hand on me. of course that would have led to more trouble. even though they started it. funny how the minds of assholes work.

l was made fun of from time to time for my acne or fat. Nothing too serious, though it did make me a lot more self conscious.

During the school year of 9/11 an Afghanistan kid transferred to my class from his country. Everyone called him a terrorist and picked on him. l was the only one nice to him, but l was peer pressured into rejecting him. l feel really bad for it. He liked me and l didn't accept 'cause he was an outcast.

I was teased quite a bit throughout elementary school, and the kids who WEREN'T teasing me thought I was strange, for the most part. Much of the teasing occurred when teachers weren't looking, and instead of telling them or my parents, I kept any hurt feelings to myself. I had a lot of pent-up anger and hatred that showed its ugly head throughout my high school years (and to some extent, my first 1 1/2 years of college). Teasing was far from a good thing to happen to me (it also made me into a social phobe).

The only "good" thing I can think of that teasing has done for me is that, since it brought about my social anxiety, it kept me away from the destructive behavior so many people in my age group tends to take part in.

Awww apple, if you ever need to talk you can come talk to me anytime.

People should just let things slide.

Yeh, your right.

apple, man, that sucks. I've heard stuff about how Japan treats people of mixed ethnicity. It is a true shame. The world should not recognize race nor ethnicity - we are all just people. If you were 21 already, I'd buy you a drink. You deserve it.

I know how you feel apple... being mixed can be hard.
I don't like being treated differently and being made to feel like an outsider in my own community.
I think it's fair to say that I live around a lot of very shallow, small-minded people.
It is said that England is very accepting of different kinds of people, but that is not my experience.
It's true that we are a diverse culture, but it seems to me that people here just "tolerate" each other. That's not the same as acceptance. I think life would be easier if I lived in a big city where I am less likely to be noticed.
I don't get called names though. People here are more reserved about their prejudice for others, it shows in different ways. I don't feel like going into detail because it may seem like paranoia.
I don't wish that I was different, I just wish that I could feel like part of the community and not care how others judge me. My feelings about this situation are getting easier with age and I think you will feel more positive about it in the future.

I completely agree. The way he treated me & the things he said to me made me feel even worse than almost any of the things the kids did, because he was supposed to be an adult & adults are supposed to be better than that. The fact that so many are not is why the world is such a terrible place in so many ways. I'm still deeply negatively affected by the things he said to me, especially when I think about it.



Wow, I'm sorry , that's terrible.



That's an easy thing to say, but it's not always possible. Especially if you're a very sensitive person, it's hard to let anything slide, especially negative things.

Stomp out bullying

I can relate to those who had been bullied for being a mixed race. I'm black and white, and I've always gotten made fun of because I wasn't one or the other. I don't really understand why people hate on those that are mixed, I find mixed people to be some of the most beautiful people in the world!

My senior year of high school, I had gotten jumped by a group of girls on my way home from school. That event definitely terrorized me to the point where I had to switch high schools, right in the middle of senior year. I didn't really make any friends with anyone at the new school, since they all had their established group of friends. So I would usually just spend my time reading. Yet, since then, I find it really hard to trust anyone.

Of course not. No-one's affected when they are
spat at
hit and kicked
touched in their private areas
nearly undressed by half a class in the school yard
hit with a hammer (and numerous other objects)
punched in the face with gymbags

or when they get
their LCD game stolen
rocks thrown at them

I could go on but you either get it or you don't.

Don't make statements about things you obviously know nothing about.
Physical and sexual bullying is very scary to experience.
Even "just" humiliating comments are bad enough; it's humiliating when you can't be allowed to walk in peace and be given the same respect as most.