Do rude people get you down?

I sometimes get depressed when I speak to rude people in person. Online, I don't mind so much, but when people are rude to me in person it can get me down.

I think some of us shy people/social phobics are the way we are because we have much difficulty putting up with people being rude to us.

If a person is rude or angry with me, it can ruin my day/week/year. I'll torture myself thinking about what I did wrong, or wondering how I could have done things differently. I hate caring what other people think about me, but that's just the way my brain works.

Online I don't care as much and can even get along with a rude person.

Same.

Don't you sometimes wish it were the same in person? Lol.

I often feel intense pain in my chest when a complete stranger is being an asshole to me. It's almost incomprehensible to me how someone can do this. How on Earth can someone have enough confidence to yell at you when they just met you for the first time? It's so strange to me, but I can't help but feel envy.

Very much so.

Part of why I lack any self confidence with the opposite gender is because of being stomped on by rude girls. I love how people say "what's the worst that can happen?"

It can be much worse than a "no" or "not interested".

It can be a push, a "eww", hands in the face, or a "your ugly"

Haha, that confuses me as well. I would actually respect the person if they weren't making me feel so terrible. Maybe next time someone is being an asshole, I'll ask them if they can give me some tips.

Does bullying count? Apart from that I never met anyone who was rude....

edit:
Well, I started to think about it. I may never met a rude person before... but sometimes I met people who were actually okay but the things they said could be mean by them as "nice", but to me they sounded kinda rude. Well, those people were... teachers...

Rude can mean a lot of things to different people.
When I think of someone being rude, it's a person not saying 'excuse me'
if they inadvertently bump or brush up against you. It's also someone that
doesn't acknowledge a door being held open for them.
As anxious and tense as I feel out in public, I always manage these simple
courtesies, so I feel a bit annoyed by this kind of rudeness.

Now someone staring you down or openly cutting in front of you in a line is
something that would bother me a lot, but I see that more as an aggressive
hostile act rather than simple rudeness. I can be overly sensitive, so something like
that would be (and has been) dissected for days or even weeks.

Online rudeness is more or less brushed off. Why oh why can't I do this IRL?

Rude people used to get me down, and still do to some extent. For years I would mull over and over in my head what they had said and try and figure out how and why they would be like that. Nowadays when I come across somebody like that, whether it be in person, online or especially when driving, I ask myself 'did you expect anything better?'. The answer is usually no. Once you come not to expect something, it is harder to be hurt when it isn't given to you.

I've also found another way to look at it. We seem to be led by the lowest common denomenator among us, that being either the least compassionate, friendly, intelligent, noble, imaginative etc. Think about it, this isnt a meritocracy we are living in, it's the sneakiest among us that make it to be politicians, CEO's etc. Think about the rules that go on in a school playground, it's the bully who everybody follows, not because they particularly like the person or see them as a role model, but because they have joined their group to make it easy on themselves, to avoid being bullied themselves. I'm determined not to let them lead me. Their actions do not dictate my own re-actions.

If anything it has given me a purpose in life - To find those that don't need to be rude to others, those that have it figured it out or are trying to figure it out.



Edit to add - I'm talking about rude here in an intentional aggressive way, not accidental rudeness or poor manners.

Correction: weeks or even months (years?). Who am I kidding??

I feel the exact same way. That feeling stays with me for hours, the burning.

I work in retail (clothing store), so this is my life everyday. I used to come home crying every other day, so eventually I went to counselling to deal with 'assertive' people.
Now, I usually just blame bad attitudes on people just having a really bad day themselves. I think to myself that I'm glad I'm not having such a bad day, and move on. I do this for every single person who is rude to me in my daily life, and it actually works. I just remind myself how glad I am I'm not in such a position where I have to spew such violent shit to stay afloat. I refuse to let myself believe that people are that rude by nature. That kills me.

Also, I usually go into work high as a kite, so that also helps deal with the inconsiderate people there.
I wish I could quit. But I know being unable to go to school and support myself would be more uncomfortable.

When I meet rude people that make me feel bad I need to answr in a proper way otherwise I will keep being depressed for days. The proper way to me is being rude myself. That allow me to release the rage and to feel better afterwards

People like that are part of the reason I'm so afraid to be around people in general. People actually yell at me, strangers even, when I'm in public. I'm not good with handling rudeness either online or off, but of course, it's easier online, though it still makes me a bit panicky. The problem is, I tend to come off as rude to people without meaning to. People tell me it's the way I stand, or the tone of my voice, or the look on my face, & I can't do any thing about any of that, even though people seem to think I can.

I'm like glass, anyone and anything can afflict me easily.

I am a bit of a "rude" person in general. So other people say. I'm a cripple behind an indestructible set of armor. Thus I am impervious to harm. I'm the only one who can harm me.

A random idiot in public harming me is like someone damaging a tank with a stick. It simply does not happen.

I am hypersensitive to motives though. I believe that people intend to harm me before they have even made a move, thus I am aggressive already which provokes them to initiate said harmful behavior. In other words, I assume that everyone is a double agent out to harm me. So you might say I'm trigger happy.

I get called rude because I do not speak to people or return the customary greetings.
As far as upsetting me, it is only when folks see I am obviously trying not to be bothered and they approach anyway that irks me.

i like being rude, but i dont like making fun of weaker people