If I have any children I'm going to raise them away from all people and speak to them only in Sindarin. I'll do my best to convince them that they are an elf.

Everyday in some shape or form I think about it. Having a child of my own, raising them.. once I do .. my life is then dedicated to them. It'll be a great time in my life.

I do not like any children, I am even afraid to even look at them. At first mention of my childhood. Do not know how to talk with them even.

I think having children would, on my part, show a depraved indifference to human life. That kid wouldn't have very good odds, rolling the genetic lotto with my material mixed in there. The long line of people with severe depression and anxiety in my family stops with me.

Living with someone, though, I think about from time to time. It'd be real nice. But I dunno if it'd be wise to subject someone to being tied to me. I can see myself being the kind of spouse that works long hours and takes their work home with them every night (not in the physical sense, but more like not being able to get work problems out of my head). I guess they'd always have the option of leaving, but I'd still feel guilty, like I wasn't being attentive enough. That and I don't know if I could handle the emotional strain of a divorce...I'd probably make it, but also never leave my desk at work again. Going home would be too painful.

...man, even my fantasies end up becoming depressingly realistic.

That's how I feel about reproduction in general. Life is a sexually transmitted disease. Don't pass it on!!!

Fuck having kids. Stupid idea. Don't want the hassle.

I'd sooner fantasize about stapling a piece a baloney to my face and immersing my head in a fish bowl filled with hungry piranhas. As far as I'm concerned, reproducing is immoral and cruel.

Immoral and cruel to multiple parties involved. Hell yeah, it's Saigyo. How have you been?

Don't say that. I'm sure you have a lot to give and that's what a child really needs.

Having children never really interested me mainly because I'm afraid they'll turn out like me. I'm a pathetic hikikomori with no friends and I just sit in my room every single day and watch TV and go on the internet. I have a family history of medical problems like schizophrenia, bipolar, tourette syndrome, OCD, etc, so they're bound to wind up with at least one of those things. I have schizophrenia, selective mutism, and tourette syndrome (I also suspect I have OCD, but I've never been diagnosed with it). I'm just full of problems and I hate my life so much. I think the cruelest thing you can do is have kids when you know you have problems that might be passed down to your children. I truly regret being born and I would hate to have children that hate their life like I do. I'm not trying to sound like a baby. I'm just making a point that if I had children there's a good chance they would end up having some of the problems I have and they very well may end up hating their life like I do, so I just think it's better that I don't have kids.

I have occasionally, I guess it's just evolutionary instincts or some deeper encoded feeling that's occasionally enters my conscious thoughts. I can sort of visualize the experience of being a parent. It makes sense since I come from a hereditary line involving a string of thousands of homo sapiens breeders.

None of this means it's at all practical that I have children though. I value a lot of free time and children take up a huge part of your life. I feel like I would have to dedicate myself to the child and I don't know if I can do that.

It has crossed my ideas, as any other living animal with a set of b...

I think i could be a great father if circumstances were different, but not in this society i'm in. Not with the person i am at the moment.

And one other thing would be necessary, a great mother. A fantastic person that would inspire the kid.

But no, not in my plans. (do i even have any?! You fail to tell me such things NotYou! )

I thought about it once upon a time, but fantasizing? Not really.

Basically everyone in my family is plagued by something (pick your choice), therefor I'd already call it irresponsible to even consider reproduction.
That's something I can empathize with.

Apart from this, there's also the point that I wouldn't even know how to raise a kid. Just trying to correct the erroneous ways I experienced myself isn't what I'd call sufficient.
I feel unable to even take responsibility for a pet, how could I even start to think about kids?

Another thing I want to mention is it's kind of hard thinking about raising a family when I can't take care of myself. Putting aside all the stuff I said above in my previous post I do still think about having a child sometimes, but I fear that I'd be an awful father since I can barely take care of myself. Although I wouldn't mind raising a child I'd definitely much prefer to adopt one then have one of my own for various reasons (the mental health issues that I stated in my previous post being the main reason). For those who haven't seen it Usagi Drop is a real inspiring movie and anime if you're ever considering wanting to raise a child. I never cared about kids before, but after watching the anime I actually started thinking about what it would be like if I could raise a child. I know that one day my mom and dad are going to die and I'm afraid that I'm going to live the rest of my life alone. That scares me a lot. I don't have the confidence to meet a girl and possibly have a family, so adoption seems like a good choice. The thing is I'm sure there are a bunch of rules and restrictions for adopting and I'm not sure if they would allow me to adopt a child. I'm a single guy with schizophrenia, I have no job, and my only source of income is my disability payments. They probably wouldn't see me as a very fitting parent.

No, I'm terrified of having children. I'd probably break them if they weren't hereditarily fucked as it is.

I guess if I ever did end up in a position where I was financially secure enough and also willing to have a child, I'd adopt instead of having one of my own. I really just can't abide by making more little mes to grow up to be more, big, miserable mes. There's plenty of kids out there who could use a good home out there anyway.

I hate children, and i hate using them as a glue to patch my relationship and seal it.

theres too many kids out there already anyway...

me and my lover, we are a family already! kids would just take away attention and resources from each other... and for what???

Yes. But I have a very active imagination, I don't think it had any relation to actual desires.

I often think about the idea of reproducing with my boyfriend and how nice it'd be to bring a little mini me into the world, but I think the cons definitely outweigh the pros. I know I wouldn't be comfortable with having to commit myself to something so seriously - once you have a kid, that's it. There's no escaping it. The child is basically your life now. Even if I did a runner, it'd still be there and I'd be forever running from the responsibility and I'm not convinced my conscience could handle that. I wouldn't seriously consider having children until my views on children change, I grow up a little (a lot) and quit being so self-centred. I definitely think I'd require a major attitude makeover to have a chance in hell of being successful as a mother.

Having said that, I think I'd do a better job than most of my old classmates who are barely adults themselves and parading their fatherless newborns around on Facebook like it's a new fucking toy.

Wow, so many said exactly what I feel. My dad always say that I cannot take care of myself, so I should get married at an early age, and I tell him that life in marriage sucks and I don't want that for me, but that's a huge lie because I'm really scared at the idea of spending the rest of my life alone and I don't want him to think that I failed if I don't get married but that it was just an option.... and as someone here said before most of my life is lived inside my head... a bunch of fantasies about marriage can really inspire me sometimes but in the end of the day I'll go back to the thought that I'm like water and other people like water, and I'll never be loveable from any person's perspective.

You're like water and other people like water. You mean that people won't ever love you more than they like you as water? Or are you afraid that they're gonna try and drink you?

oops, I mean I'm like oil and they're like water, sorry

That makes more sense. But if someone were to hold an experiment where all the water people from that idiom and they had to pile up. Then the oil people from that idiom would sit on the piled up water people because the oil people are less dense. They wouldn't get crushed and it would be a lot more comfortable. Always look at the bright side!

I never think about this - I don't like children and I really don't want to have them.

After years of telling myself that I'm no good and that it would be selfish to have children, I now think that I'd actually be a good mother. Maybe not right now, but in general I'd really like to take care of children. I just don't see how it should work without the right guy around. I swore to myself that I'd wait until I turn 35. If I don't find the right person until then, there will be a change of plans. From then on I'm going to look for an acceptable "sperm donor" just to make me pregnant, while I'd intend to raise the child/children on my own. There would be the possibility of asking a friend to "help with that", but that's not a good idea, I believe. I wouldn't want the right father to be around if he's not in a regular romantic relationship with me, apart from the fact that I find the mere imagination of engaging in certain actions with one of them pretty disgusting.