Think of it as getting a Ferarri. It's something only rich people do. It's not even on your agenda, maybe your wish list, but not in your reality.

Do you ever feel like that about love & dating? That it's for other people, and not for you?

I always feel like love and dating are for other people. It's something that I don't believe I could ever have. I went on a date for the first time in fifteen years just a few months ago and it was an absolute catastrophe. I fled after an hour of excruciating anxiety. I feel destined to be a loner.

There's someone I met through Hikiculture, so the answer is no. Not saying more than that.

yes, i feel that way too.

I couldn't date in the way that normal people date. I couldn't go to a bar or a club and talk to guys there. I'm incompatible with ninety nine percent of people; even on a friendship level, I rarely connect with anyone.

So for the most part, yes.

Nope. I might struggle with conventional relationships, but i reckon i'll manage a few in time.

Nope.

I know I can seem quite strange to some. I have an odd way of saying things which can give them pause. My cousin said, 'you can say weirdly witty intelligent things,' and I always get the impression I come across abnormally because I don't often communicate directly with the people around me. Rather, I spend more time reading and talking online and internalising everything.

I don't think it's that which prevents me from dating. I don't give myself a chance because I became so unsure of myself with the reactions I would get from people. I always got the sense that I was thought of as quaintly eccentric, which no doubt led to feelings of disassociation when really I'm not very different from anyone else. Now, because I've lost the ability to express myself fully, I find it difficult. I find it hard too putting myself in the situations where I would get noticed.

I don't think love bears talking about. I'm even more hopeless at it.

No.

I used to feel that way as an angsty teenager, until I realised (experienced) that almost all serious relationships have some sort of unconventional and slightly improper element of dependency and desire to them.

What appears a 'normal' relationship to an outsider, generally, never is.

The doubters will all eventually meet someone that'll change their perspective - no matter how long it takes.

I think so too, you just have to meet someone on your own frequency.

It's a completely alien concept.

I guess I do feel that way. Just like most other things, it seems like something that, though i want it, is unattainable & out of my reach. I can't imagine meeting a person at this age & having them completely accept me & love me for who I am, how I am, without comparing me to themselves & other my age. The only way I can see a relationship ever working for me is if the person were very similar to me & the odds of meeting someone like that are virtually zero.

Nah, I don't.

I do. I can't picture myself being in a relationship. It's like some strange thing other people do and I don't know anything about. And I don't think anyone would be interested in a strange person like me.

Besides this, I've gotten used to being alone and doing things on my own. I don't know if I can get used to having someone around all the time and doing things together.

Right now I do. Simply because no matter how much charisma you have, you can't get a girl to date you if she has something against skin color. Because it happens. Granted, I've had 3 somewhat long relationships, so I know that I can do them.

What race are you Midnight? I'm black, though I'm not sure what you are.

I dunno what I am either. My last name suggests a Spanish or Mexican background, but I don't have either in me. It's Portuguese. And my mother's side was basically the U.K.. And my father's side is primarily of east and south Asian. So I dunno. But it impairs my ability to date and potentially love people around me.

People ignore my color. The size of my penis is the only thing that's relevant. Oh, and people think it's cool that I look like I'm made out of chocolate.

Lucky sonvabitch...

I'm beginning to.

Not at all- I'm sure eventually I'll find someone.

There is always someone out there for all of us. But that's the problem, they are out there. We are in here...

Well we have the intertubes!

that's the spirit!

and to answer the thread question: no way. It's for me also, just not now.