I always screw up when I try to come across as smart.For most of my school life Ive been called slow or even stupid.I attracted and clung to "friends" that always both explicitly and implicitly expressed their contempt towards me.The whole world that I knew seemed to think I was at least slow.
I realized that what I am is independent of other people's opinions.I became more reclusive,in a way leaving my best friends in the process,most of which now make their apparent societal superiority over me the object our small talk.

But still I sometimes get caught up in others views though,getting pissed of like you said.
GET THIS...after reading became my hobby almost 2 years ago,most people think I'm smart now and the others just think I'm reading for ego.Goes to show how superficial these judgments are.DON'T PAY THEM MIND.

Oh yea and Reanimator...you have a way with word's.

In the internet (which is my main way of socialisation at the moment), some months if the people in question are nice to me and we seem to comp up with topics to talk about. Being comfortable with a one single person takes longer though, I have troubles with one-on-one discussion more than with group discussions.

In real life, rarely ever if I'm sober. Things get somewhat easier if I drink enough, although I don't manage to be completely comfortable about everything (things like hugs or touching or eye contact), and there are certain things I that will always be too uncomfortable to talk about, whether sober or drunk.

never.. i hate people

Actually I'm not getting comfortable with people at all.
If I'm with people that I don't know I'm just to nervous and shy to talk properly.
But on the other side I'm getting more and more scared the closer I'm to someone.
One way or another I'm feeling most comfortable when I'm alone.

We either click or we don't, but I'm pretty welcoming. I only get awkward if you get awkward or you're a little too sexually intimate when we barely know each other.

I'm pretty much the same, but it can take quite a long time, as lately I've been re-thinking who to trust and now I'm only really comfortable with 2 people

It takes a very long time for me, I have to see the person almost everyday and have some form of communication with them. My brother recently got a place near mine and he comes to visit frequently, and even after a year I still feel uncomfortable talking to him.

It takes me a really long time to just get comfortable to be around people. As for being friendly and making friends. I've given up on that so it never happens. If someone tries to start a conversation then forget it, back to square one. I'll think your always watching me or judging me. So I'll always be nervous around that particular person. If the person is really nice or gentle or quiet themselves then I can feel comfortable enough to talk to them.

3 to 6 months to open up to new people. Sometimes never with some. I've never been one for forums and once anonymous image boards came on the scene I interacted more. This time period i'm trying to interact on a few new forums as a change of pace to stave off ennui.

after a least a year......its hard for me to trust people....and you can't be freinds with people you don't trust

never................

With most people - never...

The only people that I'm nearly completely comfortable around (sometimes) currently are you guys (random pirate, )

Thanks

When I start drinking. All my worries and anxietys fade and I happy, fun, open, and foolish version of me appears. I become the life of a party.

I'm not sure, it depends on the person. Sometimes I feel comfortable right away, but sometimes it takes a long time.

Was I drunk when I posted this

Most of the time never. I've only been comfortable with a few people before.

Definitely, unpredictability reduces my ability to be comfortable with somebody a lot unless they're being unpredictable for good reasons and they aren't hurting me with it.

Being over-sensitive means that it's very easy for somebody to say or do something which can throw me completely out of being comfortable. A mixture of somebody being unpredictable and hitting things I'm over-sensitive to once in a while meant that I was never really completely comfortable with somebody who the other members in my social group could be over a period of around 4 years.

One thing is that when somebody is overly open to the point where they leave themselves vulnerable I immediately become much more comfortable, how could you not?

Things such as: honesty, openness, being considerate, good intentions/nature of the person, actually wanting to be in my company, somebody I can relate to, common interests, not to hit anything I'm over-sensitive to, the likelihood of rejection and time are important. Some more than others.

It's difficult to put a time on it, though I think the 3 to 6 months figure that someone gave is a good one.

Oh, alcohol in the short term! Though even though I get drunk very easily, it's more difficult for me to completely let go.

Never. I've known a friend since 6th grade and we don't even know each other's house address.

It depends on the person. I've noticed that some people, I can become very comfortable with fairly quickly (well, quickly to me, which means a few months.) With other people, I never reach that level of comfortableness.

I also agree with the point on unpredictability. If I have to keep adjusting my perception of a person in major ways, then it makes it much harder for me to be sure of them.

Usually a few months, but it takes much longer for me to trust someone... like years. I tend to be able to get comfortable with someone only after they relax themselves arround me it seems. I suspect that I just look like an asshole or something and I put them off, so they keep their distance until they realize that I'm actually a good person.

That is stupendously creepy!

I'm comfortable when they care about how I am.

So... how are you Pray_for_snow? Good?

Good.

That's not caring though, that's just asking how I am today.

Although we don't know each other from a hole in the wall, that doesn't mean I don't care if you are suffering. If you want to tell yourself that then thats on you. I was just offering a shoulder, you know?