They never know.
And usually I avoid them like the plague.
Of course I will talk to them via text or email if we happen to associate... ie work or internet site...
But I will usually treat them like the rest of my electronic lady associates.
They will never know I seriously am interested in them.

All my girlfriends were ones who chose me.
In my youth i could flirt with any woman except one I was interested in.

I become more awkward that usual. That means very awkward.

I don't know any females so the only people I'm attracted to are complete strangers. If I'm feeling brave I might give them a quick glance when I'm walking past, but either way I don't have any options.

if im alone with this person, im gonna go all out on him. if he likes me, we're gonna find out how much before the night ends. sorry, not the coy bullshit type. im simple and straight really, dont like games when it comes to these things.

okay here's the thing. there's multiple girls that i like, and i'm able to talk with them, and i'm happy around them, but i never have the courage to say i love them. the thing is, the only time i can comfortably talk with them is when only talk their own interests, and i try to relate some things that might be similar. but i always seem to keep it "safe." if its something i know that most people don't know about or original, i panic and same something cliche or to "joke around." but after i see them for the day, i hate myself for not speaking my mind. i really would like to tell them how i feel, but i'm scared they'll think i'm weird, disgusting, spread rumors, then everyone will know, then no one will be friend anymore

and i'm afraid that i keep missing opportunities, and second-guessing myself. why does the world hate me?

so how long do you know somebody before you ask them if their interested in you? do you go up-front and say to them "do you love me?"

Never met any women/girl I liked in anything but a lustful way. Neither a man I though to myself I wanted to befriend, nor a female I would date. I wrote more about this in this past thread: Never felt a connection to opposite sex or any relationship. People all just seem so flawed, superficial and tainted to me. Everyone you meet after circa 10-30 hours of contact, you can have them pegged. If you have that much time you can know what they will be doing in general and what their life priorities are, until they phase shift and enter a new passage of life. And for most it is beyond pathetic. There is not much people do besides shop, work, eat, shit, chores, and stare at pixels on some type of screen or do drugs to escape all the shitting, working, shopping and chores. It is really morose and hopeless; humanity thinks science, capitalism and technology confers so much benefit, but we are the most pathetic generation ever because of this triumvirate.

Normally I tend to just ignore women moreso than men, since I don't believe in befriending women. And I would not do what it takes to initiate dating a woman so I would have to wait for a women to make a move on me. I like to think this time however that I would actually see things out instead of categorically refusing, or trying to ignore their advances like in the past. Afterall, I could have always eventually broken up with the women and girls that wanted to date me in the past. But I have a feeling that this is just the temporary narrative I tell myself for now and fret that when the event horizon comes again, I will lapse back into my old subconscious ways that never got me anywhere with the opposite sex.

Just out of curiosity, what do you feel would be ideal then?
There really isn't much else to do in life except go through it the best way you can, in my opinion.

I personally don't agree with science being without purpose, and can meet you halfway with technology (which I think is hard to complain sincerely with if you're even accessing this site). But I can agree with capitalism, and, even though you didn't mention it- spiritual and religious beliefs- to be generally self-defeating.

I think no generation is perfect, all have their ups and downs.

The same way I act around everyone. I may be less aloof around them though and perhaps a bit more "chatty".

Uh... Heavy question... Childish, somehow.
I try to act like the 'Uke' everyone wants... Shy and... cute... innocent maybe...
I pretend not knowing a lot and I try to play the 'caged slave'...
xD kinda like that

Who said knowledge isn't cute?

Goofy, slutty, pretentious, arrogant, geeky or neutrally friendly. Basically, if there's the worst way for me to act, a way guaranteed to ensure that the person I like doesn't see me in that way, well, that's they way I pick.

Every, single, time.

Like I don't even recognize their presence mixed up with little spurts of kindness and attempts at humor. I'm a terrible romantic.

That's kinda me too.

I act like a bit more of a twat that I usually am

Maybe it is... But I'm not intelligent after all xD

Me too, just replace occasionally the attempt at humor and kindness bits with (discreetly) running away.

I musn't run away.

...this isn't helpinggg....

well i guess it's good to see that some people don't even make an attempt to be "nice" (or want to be), but like i don't necessarily mean to purposely "flirt" but it always comes to a point (or how it used to be) where i really like someone and i think i've gotten close with them, but fear or rejection.

now when i want to talk to someone i really like i'm always aloof when expressing feelings for them, but i remain "happy" and "upbeat." ....nobody likes me

for example: one time i was talking with one girl who i became good friends with. (i didn't hang out with her that much, one on one, or after school, but if she was with a group or if i saw her, i would want to talk with her). i've known her for more than a year now and we both have a lot of interests with each other. we were watching a movie together and we were having a good conversation. i felt i didn't talk with her that well in a long time. it was nice, and she seemed to be in a happy mood too. but i still think it would be weird if i asked her out, and fear if she says no, or that i need to be with her more and thennn ask her. .........ughh

i'm more clam and reserved like i don't even notice her....but fully aware....i do things to stand out and be entertaining....then engage in conversion....just the truth.....silly huh?....you gotta break the ice some how...

I start to act like (more of) an asshole to other people, and then go out of my way to be as kind as possible to her. But kind in a really aloof way, so there's never any chance I'd develop any sort of connection, or even friendship, with her. Because honestly the thought of actually trying to sustain a relationship with another woman is terrifying and I'd rather just fantasize about it. Or better yet, remain committed to my waifu and forget about her.

I act like a sociopath.

I act like I always act, like myself. Sometimes I overdo it, though.

How dare you act too much like yourself!

I pay a lot of attention to what they have to say, and pay close attention to how they're feeling and what they're going through. If they need something I'll be the first person there to offer them a hand or encouragement. However, I also become very attuned to their responses toward me as well, and if they do/say something hurtful or something that hints at rejecting me, it'll make me so upset that I won't go near them for a good while. I'll usually come back though, because, well, I'm a doormat. Save for if they do something/say something that offends one of my core beliefs, so to speak, it's game over and all bridges will be burned. Not that they usually care, but, well.

I...have some issues in dealing with people.

I try my best to be as supportive and caring as I can. It's difficult though at times. Your needs are never going to be exactly the same as their needs. So there is a lot of give and take, ebb and flow with the person you like. Working that out is never frictionless, unfortunately. Especially when the both of you are very sensitive. Hopefully with a lot of warmth and communication these problems can be overcome and mistakes forgiven and learned from.




I'm like this too sometimes, but I don't mind if it's a good person.

Very shy. I’ll look at the person too much when I think they don’t notice and look away too abruptly too, I guess...

I’m always non-talkative, so no change there. I try to be where they are when they are there, just to see them and maybe say hi, if I dare. I can never come up with something to say unless I can think of anything to ask, and it still ends up extremely rushed, awkward and stiffly. So yeah, not too unlike any conversation I have, really...

Even more tense and unnatural than normal. Dunno why either... I know nothing’s gonna happen, so why can’t I just relax and get over it? Sigh.

I’m really pathetic when I like someone! I mean even more than otherwise... Take my normal aspie non-existent social skills and multiply them until you reach absolute zero, and you have me in love. Extremely awkward. Likely grinning like the village idiot, but I’m not sure, since I’m not always that aware of what I send out.

If it’s more sexual than infatuation, then I’m more relaxed, and just enjoy the closeness and my thoughts while they are there.