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School refusal is a term originally used in the United Kingdom to describe refusal to attend school, due to emotional distress. School refusal differs from truancy in that children with school refusal feel anxiety or fear towards school, whereas truant children generally have no feelings of fear towards school, often feeling angry or bored with it instead. The term was coined as a more general alternative to school phobia, which can be used to describe school refusal caused by separation anxiety.

Approximately 1 to 5% of school-aged children have school refusal, though it is most common in children aged five, six, ten and eleven. The rate is similar within both genders, and there are no known socioeconomic differences.

Children and adolescents with school refusal sometimes suffer from other problems such as mood disorders, social phobia or clinical depression. The longer a child stays out of school the harder it is for them to go back, so some believe it is best to try to get the child back into school as quickly as possible. However, it may be hard to accomplish as when forced they are prone to temper tantrums, crying spells, psychosomatic or panic symptoms and threats of self-harm. These problems quickly fade if the child is allowed to stay home.

Whereas some cases of school refusal can be resolved by gradual re-introduction to the school environment, some others may need to be treated with some form of psychodynamic or cognitive-behaviour therapy. Some families have sought alternative education for school refusers which has also proved to be effective. In extreme cases, some form of medication is sometimes prescribed but none of these have stood out prominently as solutions to the problem.

A medical condition often mistaken for school refusal is delayed sleep phase syndrome (DSPS). DSPS is a circadian rhythm sleep disorder which causes difficulty falling asleep at night and waking in the morning.

Factors that cause school refusal behavior

Factors that cause reluctance to attend school, can be divided into four categories. This distinction has been developed, based on studies in the United States under the leadership of Professor Christopher Kearney.

It is possible that the child wants to avoid school-related issues and situations that cause unpleasant feelings in him, such as anxiety, depression, or psychosomatic symptoms. The reluctance to attend school is one symptom among many in a large number of trouble, such as anxiety disorder, depression, sleep disorder, separation anxiety and panic disorder.

It may also be that the child wants to avoid the tests, presentations, group work, specific lessons, or interaction with other children. As well can a child want attention from outside the school, significant people, such as parents or older acquaintances.

On the other hand it may be that the child wants to do something more comfortable just experienced her outside of school, like play computer, watch movies, ride with your friends, or use drugs. Some of the children and young people may be affected by several factors at once.

School refusal untreated, would lead more than half the school refusal child and adolescent to problems which may arise later, such as adult depression, anxiety disorders, under-performance, economic problems, difficulties at work and possibly crime.


I was a major school refusal. Were you?

I started refusing to go to school from the age 11 or 12. When I was about to enter high-school, I questioned whether I'd be able to even make it. My first year of highschool was a bloody nightmare - I don't think I'll ever experience as much anxiety as I did then.

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I went to 4 different senior schools (before giving up completely) because of this. Spent a fucking fortune on uniforms. So yes.

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Yes, from age 14 onwards 'till when I officially left at 16 (From age 15 on I think I went to school a handful of times). I had a nice excuse with a physical condition I have, so I was often too 'sore' to go to school.

This is really interesting, thanks for sharing. I had also never heard of delayed sleep phase syndrome until now, which I think also affects me.


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I wasn't. My mother is the type of woman who will literally pick me up, throw me in the car, and drag me by the ear into school. There was no not going. I'm also a pretty big push over so I never really even tried to fight.


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Yes, I "refused" to go to school. It started almost immediately when I began secondary school, first it would be just a day or two in a week, but it gradually increased and by the end of the first year I had missed the last month of school. By the second year, after a few months of infrequent attendance, one day I just stopped going. And it was all down hill from there. School had always caused great anxiety in me though, for the first few years of primary school I would cry everyday before starting the school day.

Looking back at it now it's very frustrating and a little bit upsetting aswell. I finished primary school at a all-time confidence high, I was just begining to get good friends and feel 'normal', but I guess I just didn't cope well with the stresses of starting secondary school.


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i don't remember ever liking school, even in kindergarten. i remember feelings of extreme stress dealing with being the outcast of my classmates and making friends, pressure from everyone to "live up to my potential" which was always getting a perfect score, having to keep quiet because i asked too many questions that they didn't have or want to give the answers to.. i just couldn't deal with that load of bullshit on top of all the other troubles i had going on in my life at the time which lead to a period of my life dominated by major depression that lead to a breakdown. that was elementary school. in middle school i sort of stopped caring about academics and began to fail the majority of my classes, but since they were a private school they didn't give me Fs. in high school there was just too much instability in my life for me to see school as anything but a waste of my time. i needed help not homework. i didn't drop out the day i turned sixteen but quit a few months later. i wasn't a loner then however.


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That article completely described me in school. It was especially bad for me from middle school on. I was terrified to go to school.

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That article completely described me in school. It was especially bad for me from middle school on. I was terrified to go to school.


The very same for me, but I'm still in High School. I can only say "Thank God it's my last year."

If I could find my old attendance records, I'd love to post them. The only reason I didn't attend was because I was extremely sick, but I swear it was psychosomatic symptoms that kept coming up. Maybe that's what is happening now, but I don't think so. I was looking forward to going on Monday. =S

I actually used to go see the school counselor frequently to talk about the problems, and I ended up being mocked and criticized by my classmates for going to see her. I used to get called down, and one of them used to say something around the lines of "Enjoy your psycho-trip.". People weren't nice. Some of them laughed. That really starts to fuck with you.

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Amazingly enough, I never did this up until I left school for good. I always hated school, but I was more afraid of disobeying the adults than I was of school itself. At least that's what it was like before I left; what happened after could certainly be described as "school refusal". I left school at age 14 and refused to ever go back. Nothing anyone did could convince me otherwise. That was almost 9 years ago. Things haven't changed much.


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i did this a lot in middle school. generally i wound up going to school anyway, but there were points where i hid in the woods to avoid it.
my parents drove me to school and basically every morning my teacher or a friend in my class would have to come and, pretty literally, drag me out of my mom's car.
when i got into high school, i kind of just went along with it for simplicity's sake. it was easier then refusing and i knew i would just end up there anyway.
i'm not in school now, though.

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Yea I got this when I was in highschool. The more days I skip the harder it was for me to go back. I still have dreams of myself in that situation every now and then, where I dream of myself in the middle of the school year and I'm counting how many days or weeks I have left to 'attend', since I was in a non semester school, I usually have to count which classes I have on which day or how many classes I've skipped, so I could attend the classes that I like to go to, like art and religion classes, the 'counting' reoccur a lot in my dreams.

I get temper tantrums whenever someone talk to me about it or forcing me to go to school, because I couldn't talk or tell anyone why I'm not going to school, it was just a simple "I'm afraid", but I just couldn't do that, and it kind of gets worse the more I bottle it up, since it leads back to my phobia.


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My circadian rhythm has its own cycles. Instead of staying put while the 24-hour cycle revolves, it revolves as well at its own speed.

So even though my mom will be happy that I've been going to bed at night and waking up in the morning, I'll probably be going to bed in the afternoon and waking up at midnight for the next week. And then the next week would probably be different.

This is why I'm always so tired at school and why I'm just not compatible with schedules in general.


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Yep. I'm a school refuser.

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That describes me perfectly. I used to make up excuses for not going to school and everyone there just thought I was a typical lazy truant. It made me feel guilty, but I just hated school. I was literally scared of it - I experienced anxiety (to the point where I would vomit) when faced with the prospect of attending, so I had to make up excuses for not going because no one took me seriously when I told them the real reason.

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This is probably why I never finished highschool. I bet it's even worse now that I've become completly secluded and I depend on the anonymity of online school.

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I stopped going to school towards the end of grade 8 and never attended high school, so I fit the whole school refusal thing to a tee.

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I stopped going to school towards the end of grade 8 and never attended high school, so I fit the whole school refusal thing to a tee.


And yet, pookie, you're still completely brilliant. School is a scam.

I used to go to school religiously -- I had perfect attendance in high school. I also used to randomly break down into
tears and hyperventilate in class. Also when my S.I. peaked. Got reported to the school councilor by my psych
teacher, but no one really gave a shit so I didn't bother to talk to him. Spent most of my free time at school wandering
empty hallways or sitting in on extra classes.

Then in college, I decided not to give a shit and skipped as many classes as possible. The ones I did sit in on I played
computer games or slept. Still got As.

I think systematic education is important for normals, but for the rest of us, its just bullshit.

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I think systematic education is important for normals, but for the rest of us, its just bullshit.


I agree. Although, I did play the game. I skipped here and there when I just didn't give a fuuuuu- about going, but for the most part, I went along with the charade. It's over now. :cheers

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High school i rarely missed a day since they would give detention for missing classes. In college you wouldn't be reprimanded for missing a class so whenever i could i would miss, which was about half my classes.


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I'm technically refusing to go to school. I've not gone for six years and refuse to go back! :smile2

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My attendance summary

Unexcused Absence: 30

Excused Absence: 8

Plus one more, because I didn't go today. If we combine this with last semester's attendance, I haven't shown up for about 4 months of the entire school year.

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At age 15, in the middle of Freshman year of high school, I became a school refusal. The cause was my extreme social anxiety. I am 21 now, and I have been very reclusive ever since, rarely even leaving the house. :closedeyes


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Hmmm, sometimes I have school refusal, but I can't exactly do that because of my pushy parents. Right now I'm in an alternative school which does make me anxious when I go, but it makes me less anxious then when I was in a public school system.

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yeah, I got really bad and missed a lot of school and was late a lot of the time... but I kinda wish I had stopped going much sooner than I actually did. =__=


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@SoullessHuman - Alternative school saved my ass from not graduating on time. Mine was show up for 4 hours in the afternoon and just learn all this stuff and pass the tests before the end of the semester. Plus it was a class of fewer than 20 kids at all times. I still ended up having to go for one extra month in the summer because my attendance was really poor lol.

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